From WaPo, an excellent article on DADT at the front lines:
KABUL - The gay Army lieutenant's heart had been racing all night.
Shuffling between meetings at his outpost in eastern Afghanistan on Saturday night, the 27-year-old officer kept popping his head into the main office to catch a glimpse of Fox News's coverage of the Senate debate that led to a vote lifting the ban on gay men and lesbians serving in the military openly.
"Don't cry," a 21-year-old specialist, one of the lieutenant's confidants, told his boss jokingly when news broke that 65 senators had voted to repeal "don't ask, don't tell."
"I'm completely numb," was all the lieutenant could mutter. . . .
The stakes were also high for the specialist. His brother is gay and had vowed to join the Air Force if the policy were repealed this year. Their father is also gay, which made attending military events somewhat awkward for the family.
"It just made for a weird situation," he said.
This points up one thing that you never hear from the anti-repeal contingent: we're there, people know we're there and it's been fine, but somehow everything is going to dissolve into total chaos if we're allowed to say so.